Despite all that has happened in the past six years, we make kindness a priority. One of the things that attracted me to Roger in the first place, and kept me hooked for the past twenty-six years was his inherent kindness. He is kind as a default setting. When an animal is in distress, although we are “hard” farmers, he still gets very upset if he has to put one down, or sees it suffering. This doesn’t mean he breaks down, or even sheds tears, it just means he absolutely hates witnessing the distress, and will do everything in his power to help. I identified that this was how he was with regards to Leanne. He felt sorry for her, and wanted to help her. Sadly, that meant he hurt us. But, of course, he was never going to get caught, so I would never be hurt. He never wanted to leave me, and he tried to worm his way out of the affair without me ever finding out. He never told me about it, because he knew it would break my heart……too late, he had already set the whole machine in motion for that when he first slept with her. However, back to the NOW. We are very kind to one another, we like each other, and we do still have the odd laugh, usually over something perverse. Kindness is important, and we practice it daily.