Interesting day with my favourite supplier rep. We do business with a company that has the most delightful woman as their rep. She’s been with them at least as long as I have been associated with this company, nearly eleven years now. She’s an incredible and truly genuinely lovely person, young single Mum who got out there and kicked arse, building up this company from scratch with the directors.
Debbie is a petite, very attractive woman in her early 40s, I would estimate. Her husband left her for another woman when her daughter was very young. She has since re-partnered, and is pretty amazing. Always very bubbly and positive. We have always really hit it off. She always invites me to stuff that the directors of the companies are invited to, at professional gatherings, horse sales, etc. Sneaking me in to drink bubbles with her and keep her company.
When she heard a few months ago that Roger had buggered off with a woman he met online – because he’d been looking for nearly two years, while I thought we were working on saving our relationship after he had a long affair with a “friend” of ours in our homes – she was totally and utterly horrified. She was someone who had followed my academic journey closely, telling me how amazing I am for having done this, not knowing that I had been cheated on constantly. You know, you don’t run around telling people who don’t need to know that personal crap about your life! Finding out he had been lying and cheating all along, she just said, “what a disgusting man, WTF?!” You are amazing, what is wrong with these guys? Thirty years??? Bloody hell!
Today, she walked in and gave me a warm hug, asked me how my textbook chapter was going, and told me I looked fabulous. Then, “is he still with HER???” Then, the thing everyone says, “you know that she did you a favour, really, eh? These guys don’t change, and the women who relieve you of them, you know you are going to be so much better in the long term, right? I am living proof. It was super shitty at the time, for a long time, having to co-parent with him, and HER. But we are so much better than this – the best revenge is to let her keep him, it truly is.”
I know, in my brain this. And, yep, not going anywhere Debbie. He has it sussed. A mousy former betrayed spouse who is quite comfortable being the other woman, who helped break up a thirty year relationship, because she deserves it, and is more special than moi. Her kids need him more than mine do, right?
Why would there be any doubt they are still together?
Her ex-husband didn’t last more than a couple of years with the one he left her for. Most people seem to think it won’t last.
I know better. I know him. And I think I have her sussed. She just wants someone to cuddle her and tell her she’s wonderful, blinkered to what it took to get to that point.
Other people are just there to stand on to get what you “deserve” in life, right?