I go to a pub quiz most Tuesday nights.
Hey, it’s a small town!
Last time we won, which was hilarious. And tonight, second. Gets us a decent bar tab …
Best quote of the night by one of my friends?
“Imagine having to be the woman who broke up a thirty year marriage, forevermore. That would fucking suck!”
Lol. Yep. Good times.
Of course it takes two to tango. I know that. I just remain silent if someone says anything now. Change the subject, talk lightly about something else entirely.
But, yeah, I know I would feel like that if a cheating man duped me into loving him when he already had a partner and family. My friend who found out a few months back about her new boyfriend’s wife felt that way. That even though she had totally fallen in love with him, she didn’t want to continue on with a liar. She is still struggling with how she feels, and how he had her convinced. But remains no contact.
Most people don’t get it. They think, hey, you “lost,” weren’t good enough, the “better woman” won. Hard to be the “better woman” after three kids, three decades and every day life, trying to heal yourself with and for a man who cheated on you, when a new, shiny, uncheated-on-by-him woman shows up online.
You’re always gonna come second in that race, when you didn’t know you were entered in one.
I have stolen the below picture/quote from Creative Rational, it is gorgeous and heartbreaking, and feels about right, if you take it literally – which of course, is not the point. However, I came along after his heart was broken by Leanne cheating on him, and thought I helped him heal, with our beautiful love story. Now he is forgetting me, choosing anyone but me.