A close friend of mine posted a link to a news article about an ex of hers, on Facebook last night.
It’s a long story. She is the eldest of 8, very bright, very beautiful. She married the most eligible bachelor in town during her first job as a high school English teacher. A lovely, good looking dairy farmer who played rugby, played guitar and sang lead vocals in a band – a decade older than her. He was never a match for her intellect, unfortunately. Four kids and 12(?) years later, she left him, causing a heck of a storm in town. She was the bitch who left a favourite son. She had become entangled (I’ve never known the true state of things, but pretty sure there was at least an emotional affair) with the guy in this article. They had a torrid, on-off thing for years. He was “the love of her life,” but she eventually got away from his games.
She carries a lot of guilt about what she did. You’d never know, but it had a lasting effect on her. She really thought she loved him, and he her. I know that pain only too well.
Seeing his name yesterday triggered me. My own rape, of course, but my memories of that time for her. Her siblings all adored him. I thought he was a user, a predator even then. I was never a fan. He preyed on an unhappily married, clever, pretty blonde. He promised her the world, then had her running rings around the place for him. I had very bad vibes despite everyone cooing over how amazing he was, and how Cathy had finally found true love!
Look at who he really is. He’s a predator. A disgusting man. She named and shamed, knowing he was finally exposed.
And let us all be disgusted in our legal system, that allows this girl’s life to be permanently damaged by this predator, and slaps him over the wrist with 4 months home detention. I messaged her last night. She says there’s more, there will be more. I said I know. I told her my thoughts about him 20 years ago. And that I know. She said not many understand, her younger siblings were all taken in by his Mr Nice Guy bullshit. Most of them publically expressed horror and shock at the news.
Not Cathy or myself. We were not shocked.
Hmm. Familiar much?
Like 40 something year old men that “suddenly” have a long term affair on their loyal, loving partner, this is not an isolated incident. Paul, now 58, had done this before. He manipulates women and GIRLS, for his amusement. Roger fucked his ex GF, a hooker, and other ONSs in the years before he had a full blown affair with Leanne. He kept her on the hook, to fuck again even after he was exposed – in case I left him, he needed a back up plan. (Just like he did me when he left me for Trinket.) Proof being fucking her again, two years after “it was over, I hate her for what she participated in to hurt you.”
Yep, I have sex with people I hate all the time! It wasn’t a flash in the pan, a one off. He’d built up to that crescendo. He doesn’t admit to any of it. I think he really believes he’s just a man who made a mistake (over and over and over.) Actions have consequences. I’ve paid dearly for his “mistake.”